I'm up early today. I woke up and my pillows once again were totally flat. I have two of those memory pillows and apparently I either have a really hard head (not denying this possibility) or I am a really heavy sleeper (also possible)but they aren't retaining their shapes and they aren't bouncing back. I tried fluffy them and folding them in half but they just seem to keep getting flatter. Sure by tonight they may have come back to a resemblance of their original shape but for now they are pretty much useless as far as pillows go.
As I struggled with my pillows this morning I slipped into a memory of hard headed thinking about a pillow. When I was in college a family friend accused me of stealing her pillow. I didn't. In fact, I don't even recall seeing her pillow and at the time didn't even know what it looked like. It was however, her favorite pillow and she was convinced I had it.
There was absolutely no way I could convince her otherwise. To this day she probably still believes I have her pillow. For months she asked about her pillow. She even went so far as to make me a decorative pillow and to say something to the effect of if you see my pillow I'd really like it back as if I was keeping it hostage. I would have gladly given her pillow back but I find it impossible to give to someone something I don't have.
Now up to the time of the pillow incident I thought of this person as a good person, honest, friendly, trustworthy and kind. However, now even some 20+ years later I cringe inwardly when I think of her. Her love of her pillow blinded her to the truth of what really happened and her hard-headedness didn't allow for any other options than what she believed to be the truth.
As the other party concerned in this event, I also didn't have the whole truth. I had no idea what happened to her pillow but knowing that I didn't have it and sharing that bit of the truth with her showed me a couple of things.
One, people don't always recognize the truth of a situation. Two, even if you share the truth with them until they are ready to accept the truth your words are just words falling on deaf ears/hearts. Three, people will believe what they want to believe often not based on the truth or the whole picture. Four, people will go to great lengths to justify what they believe-whole truth or not.
The last thing I'm going to say about that pillow is that I did not steal it nor am I holding it hostage. Seriously, the only pillow I might consider taking is my husbands. He has this great double thickness memory foam pillow-I won't steal it though I do borrow it occasionally I always give it back. Of course, depending on how well I slept I might hit him with it first. Just kidding.
Thoughts for the day:
Have you ever accused or confronted someone about something-absolutely convinced you had the truth-so much so that if they deny the accusation that you can't or won't consider any other possibility?
Do you value people and relationships over things or things over people?
Can you give something you don't have?
If you don't have love, peace, hope, forgiveness or joy within you can you still give those things?
Funny thing is that I believe unlike actual things to receive love, peace, hope, joy and forgiveness sometimes giving them is how you get them.
With that said, I have forgiven the person who wrongly accused me and sincerely hope she finds out the truth about her beloved pillow.
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